9 Tips to Making Friends at Conferences


Recently, I had a great time at Blogworld New York 2012. I made some new online and offline friends. This picture is of two new friends: Mitzi Eaker of Mitzi Jane Media and Scott Jacobs of Democast Media. I am in the middle.  We had the pleasure of enjoying a meal at Junior’s Restaurant in New York City, New York along with a special yummy dessert of original cheesecake with strawberries on top.

It made me think how making friends at conferences is a little different than in normal time due to the time restraints.  I am still learning but here are 9 tips after going to a number of conferences which are hopefully helpful to you.

1.  If you want to meet someone, do it as soon as possible.  Time goes by fast, you can miss the opportunity and time may get away from you.  This has happened to me a number of times.  Just do it!

2.  For some people, you are going to have to wait in line for.  This one is hard for me because I think that you will just catch them later but there is always a line or you miss out.

3.  Take a risk of rejection.  Noone likes rejection but if there is a saying, “No risk, no reward.”  It applies here.  You need to leave your shyness at home.

4.  Introduce yourself to others and find out their name.

5.  Listen to others and ask questions to gather information about them.

6.  Have fun with getting to know others.  Don’t take yourself so seriously!

7.  Invite others instead of waiting for an invitation.  This is a big one.  If your invitation is rejected, don’t get too disappointed or go back into a shell and never try again.  You may need to adjust the invitation to fit their needs.  It may not be about you.

8.  Don’t ask for too many favors from a newly acquired friend.

9.  Protect your reputation and don’t over drink alcohol.

Relationships and friendships are sometimes built over time by being aware of someone and getting to know them over several conferences can happen which is ok too.  Just remember to stretch your socializing muscles, they can help you make some new friends.

Do you have anything to add to making friends at conferences?

Weight Loss Goal Reached

At the beginning of 2011, I made a new year’s resolution to lose weight.  I was especially pushed towards the goal when Jack Lalanne died on January 23, 2011 at the age of 96.  Also my cardiologist put me on a treadmill as a routine check on my heart.  Just the thought of going through any heart disease surgery or treatment confirmed my determination to lose weight.

My focus was to eat more of a diet rich in fresh fruit, vegetables, fish, chicken, and nuts.  If I went out to eat my focus was to be choosy and eat about half of what was served.  The rest of the food would be put into a to go box for another meal.  A lot of my meals were simply prepared at home.  For lunch a lot of times, I would have a can of tuna with light salad dressing, some fresh fruits and vegetables.

I avoided milk and wheat products.  I drank soy milk for a milk substitute.  For breakfast instead of cereal, I ate an apple and/or additional fruit.  I found nuts were too many calories and eventually pretty much eliminated them.

Yes, I exercised by walking but I could do better in this exercise area.

I lost for the year about 32 pounds which made me feel successful for the year in my goal.  I can definitely tell a difference just walking around how much the extra weight added because I feel lighter.

My goal for next year in this area is to continue watching what I eat and exercise more.  I have more that I would like to lose but I made a significant change.  I really haven’t discussed too much publicly but my hope since others struggle with this problem to let them in on my secrets of weight loss.  Determination is a big part but eating the right foods makes a big difference.  Avoiding high carbohydrates such as cake, cookies, chips, and soda are important.  I did drink diet soda.

Do you feel any of this information could be helpful to you?